Apparently, a list of things a wife should follow has caused all sorts of trouble on FecesBook, with womyns going all crazy and outraged etc etc etc.
Speaking personally, I can’t find much wrong with it. The advice is old-fashioned, to be sure, but I suspect that if you asked any man what he felt about the reverse of the advice — e.g., how do you feel when your wife screams at you (#1) or belittles you in public (#2)? And yes, I know that a lot of the advice could apply equally to men. That’s not the topic under discussion, here.
Ladies?
1. Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. It’s a sign of disrespect.
2. Don’t expose your husband’s weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other’s keeper.
3. Never use attitudes and moods to communicate with your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don’t have a happy home.
4. Never compare your husband to other men, you’ve no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his ego, his love for you will diminish.
5. Never ill treat your husband’s friends because you don’t like them, the person who’s supposed to get rid of them is your husband.
6. Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.
7. Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.
8. Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.
9. Never be a wasteful wife. Your husband’s sweat is too precious to be wasted.
10. Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband sex. You must give it to him how he wants it. Sex is very important to men. If you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty. No man can withstand sex starvation for too long (even the anointed ones).
11. Never compare your husband to your one time sex mate in bedroom, or an ex-lover. Your home may never recover from it if you do.
12. Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.
13. Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don’t do that.
14. Don’t forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.
15. Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.
16. Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.
17. Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don’t waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must leave if you want to cleave.
18. Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?
19. Don’t forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bedrock of every happy home.
20. If your idea is better than his, never compare yourself to him. It’s always teamwork.
21. Don’t be too judgmental to your husband. No man wants a nagging wife.
22. A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn’t even know that her body needs a bath.
23. Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try change your cooking. No man jokes with food.
24. Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.
25. Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.
26. Don’t associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.
27. Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.
28. Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.
29. You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.
30. A prayerful wife is a better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family.
I don’t see much wrong with any of it. The people that do have never been married or are divorced or miserable. But what do I know? We’ve been married once and for 35 years. Can’t speak for my wife but I for one take things like vows (my word) seriously, otherwise I wouldn’t have said them. It hasn’t all been easy, nothing worthwhile ever is, but my commitment always pulled me through the rough spots. I have to be true to me first.
A couple of notes on a couple of the items:
Item 4: I was once in a long-term relationship with a woman who told me in no uncertain terms that I was never to compare her to another woman, even if the comparison was flattering to her (which is the only type I’d ever make anyway).
Number 12: This is the only one I’d flat out disagree with. The second last part should read, “and you should answer for yourself and handle what is directed at you.”
Otherwise, these are as applicable to men as to women and I’m sure that a lot of the people offended by this would be praising it to high heaven (albeit with a couple caveats like the one I noted) if the genders were reversed.
“A lot of the people offended by this would be praising it to high heaven if the genders were reversed.”
Without a doubt!
Generally good things to strive for and if a person does not agree, don’t do it because the only one who will give a shit is the person you’re married to. Over 20 years and two children with a beautiful, smart woman who hardly ever had a good day and that affects every part of a relation ship. Now over 25 years to a beautiful, smart woman, a widow when we married, and every day is a blessing and we both make an extra effort to take care of each other.
Hell, every one has a different life story, we spend our lives writing our own parts most of the time with our own actions and it helps being matched up with someone on the same page or at least in the same book.
> 12. Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.
The first half is right, the second half is dead wrong.
> 10. Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband sex. You must give it to him how he wants it.
Agree with the first part, but with the second…there’s certain discussions that should take place about the time the decision to wed happens. That’s one of those, and certain sexual practices that some people find enticing and fun others find degrading and/or painful. No one should be be in a position where they feel they have to put up with degrading or painful sex just because they’re married.
> 25. Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.
Water? WATER? Do you KNOW what fish do in that?
I took the liberty of reversing the sexes:
1. Never raise your voice for any reason to your wife. It’s a sign of disrespect.
2. Don’t expose your wife’s weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other’s keeper.
3. Never use attitudes and moods to communicate with your wife, you never know how your wife will interpret them. Defensive men don’t have a happy home.
4. Never compare your wife to other women, you’ve no idea what their life is all about. If you attack her ego, her love for you will diminish.
5. Never ill treat your wife’s friends because you don’t like them, the person who’s supposed to get rid of them is your husband.
6. Never forget that your wife married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.
7. Never assign anyone to give attention to your wife, people may do everything else but your wife is your own responsibility.
8. Never blame your wife if she comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage her.
9. Never be a wasteful husband. Your wife’s sweat is too precious to be wasted.
10. Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your wife sex. You must give it to her how she wants it. Sex is very important to women. If you keep denying her, it is a matter of time before another man takes over that duty. No woman can withstand sex starvation for too long (even the anointed ones).
11. Never compare your wife to your one time sex mate in bedroom, or an ex-lover. Your home may never recover from it if you do.
12. Never answer for your wife in public opinion polls, let her handle what is directed to him.
13. Never shout or challenge your wife in front of children. Wise men don’t do that.
14. Don’t forget to check the smartness of your wife before she checks out.
15. Never allow your friends to be too close to your wife.
16. Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your wife is always surrounded by men who took their time on their looks.
17. Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don’t waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must leave if you want to cleave.
18. Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to her even if you earn more money than her?
19. Don’t forget that wives want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for her. Good communication is the bedrock of every happy home.
20. If your idea is better than hers, never compare yourself to her. It’s always teamwork.
21. Don’t be too judgmental to your wife. No woman wants a controling husband.
22. A lazy husband is a careless husband. He doesn’t even know that his body needs a bath.
23. Does your wife like a kind of cooked food? Try change your cooking. No woman jokes with food.
24. Never be too demanding to your wife, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.
25. Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your wife and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.
26. Don’t associate with men who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.
27. Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.
28. Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.
29. You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.
30. A prayerful husband is a better equipped husband, pray always for your wife and family.