Here’s a happy little tale of how a couple decided to jump the gun, so to speak:
A couple have revealed that the secret to their happy and strong relationship is allowing each other to sleep with other people. Zoe Grey, 31 and her partner Matt, 36, live together in Cambridgeshire with the four children they have between them. Former soldier Matt, who had been cheated on by previous partners, initiated the conversation with Zoe about starting an open relationship. Keen to experiment [I bet she was — K.], Zoe agreed, and she admits she’s never been in a healthier relationship. “There is so much trust between us. The fact we can have fun with other people eliminates the worry of cheating, lying, and sneaking around. The connection we have together is so strong, and our relationship is so solid.”
Then:
Zoe continued: “After a couple of months of doing this, I told Matt that I also wanted him to have fun with other women and let me know about it, and now we have a fully open relationship and have fun with other people together. At first, he was shocked that I wanted him to do it too. It was alien territory for him, and he was nervous when we first went to a club, but now we have the most amazing relationship and we are happier than we have ever been.”
There was a time when I would have got all bent out of shape by stuff like this, but as the title of this post indicates, I don’t care anymore,
My prediction, however, is that this little menage-à-plusieurs is going to end in tears, and the four kids are the ones who will end up suffering — all so that their feckless parents can fuck other people without guilt.
In the interests of full disclosure, however, here are a few pics of said sexual explorers:
Quite a banging [sic] bod for someone who’s popped four sprogs… but then again, the real question arises:
Why do people have to advertise life choices like this to all and sundry? Couldn’t they just have gone on in private with none being the wiser?
But no: I guess this is par for the course among the Tik-Tok attention-seeking generation of Millennials these days. More’s the pity.
You are right Kim, this will not end well, and most likely is on the way out already. There is no “mental” commitment between these too. How could he “allow” her to risk disease, or even death?
They are adults with the minds of mere teenagers. 4 kids and they are fooling around? And bragging about it worldwide?
Narcissistic braindead idiots with no care at all for their kids. He is going to get wallet raped by the courts and frankly, I’m glad. I just wish she would too.
Spot on bullseye X ring accurate. Or is that XXX ring accurate?
Stupid narcissists. The poor kids are the ones who will pay the price.
JQ
So just how much does she charge per hour and is it more or less to have Matt join in?? Thoose boobs weren’t cheap.
….. and she looks a lot like the stripper my foolish stepbrother actually married.
The question now becomes “who are the fathers of those kids?” The whole *point* of sexual-exclusivity in marriage is to ensure that paternity is known. An “open marriage” is a contradiction in terms and defeats the purpose.
There are couples who carry on like this for decades. Look at the rumors around the original Prime Minister Trudeau. There are swingers and “lifestyle” clubs everywhere, and have been since at least the 1960s.
There’s also a LOT of people who aren’t in “ethical non-monogamous” relationships who are playing hide the sausage and blow their relationship up. Or aren’t playing it and blow it up other ways.
Relationships require communication, trust and openness.
I knew a guy who knew a guy who’s thing was watching his wife get railed by other guys. Even took pictures. With a film camera. So that it *couldn’t* (in theory) get out onto the internet where people in their church could find them. Allegedly died of a heart attack that came on while he was having sex.
I also know quite a few people who are into the “polyamorous” lifestyle in various ways, and some of them are quiet about it.
I have seen it blow things up badly over the years.
It’s fairly easy to avoid the worst of the diseases these days–condoms are pretty reliable, except for herpes, which something like half the population has anyway (mostly “oral” herpes).
But to answer Our Host’s question:
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Why do people have to advertise life choices like this to all and sundry? Couldn’t they just have gone on in private with none being the wiser?
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The first answer is that they all think they’ve discovered the key to happiness. They haven’t.
The second answer is “Look around. Everyone else is airing their s*t in public.” Well, not everyone.
Sexual purity is pretty much a dead thing.