From SOTI, under the heading of “Things your mother never told you”:
“You can’t have it all without expecting to DO it all. And if you aren’t able or willing to do it all, you’re going to fail, either at one of the things, or at all of the things.”
I think that “you can have it all” is one of the biggest lies ever perpetrated on women by the so-called Women’s Liberation movement.
The major refrain from Flashdance is “I can really have it all”, and that is the idea being pushed.
I disagree.
One of the few lessons I actually learnt as a callow yoot, without having to hit rock bottom first.
Everything in life is a choice, you either spend time chasing x or y, and if y is more important x does without.
Eon’s ago when I worked a Global Tech Company, there were a lot of chick professionals that felt guilty as hell not raising their kids, and the tortured logic they employed was truly staggering, but the reality is they would rather be in the office making $$$, than a caretaker. Plain and simple.
A guy I knew had a step father who was a lawyer who once told me “The problem with guys is they want a whore in the bedroom and a lady everywhere else.” That’s always stuck with me through the years although I didn’t learn from it soon enough.
A good mother would teach her daughters that that’s a good way to get and keep a good man. A faithful woman who keeps her man’s belly full and his balls empty is pretty much every man’s dream.
Not sure why that’s a problem with men.
The problem is that kind of woman doesn’t exist, as you said they’re an ideal.
Whores are always whores and ladies will never find you to be good enough.
There is no perfect woman. Thinking you’re going to get one is a man’s downfall. :-\
The necessary nuance for the first phrase of the second sentence is, ’or pay for someone to do it for you.’
The ONLY thing any human has is exclusive control of one mind and one body for some finite period of time.
Accordingly, one must determine what one values, and prioritize those values in order to rationally allocate time to pursue them. Failing to do this results in spending time willy nilly, usually on less important values, which effectively disrupts attainment of any of them.
It’s not so much time management, as it is value and priority management coupled with the understanding that time deployment is intrinsic to that.